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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Nov 28, 2005 2:02:39 GMT -5
Okay, I thought it was high time we stopped going off-topic in the poor Bio Comments board, and finally had an official place to talk about such things. Here we go: an official board for all the stuff we've been bringing to Bio all these weeks. That is, a place to talk about important social stuff from offline (and occasionally online). Now, if only we could move threads...
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Post by Amelius on Nov 28, 2005 6:34:16 GMT -5
would you like me to move them? I probably could... *scratch that, I have no idea what I'm doing!*
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Post by Zolah on Nov 28, 2005 10:40:32 GMT -5
We should maybe ask amelius to make a whole new forum thing where we can discuss this? i mean... *sweatdrop*
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Post by deltaT on Nov 28, 2005 17:12:59 GMT -5
She could put it under Pondering and Musing, and the threads could be things like "The Opposite Sex", "Social Standing", and "Inner Demons", and so on.
Amy it would be great if you could move all the conversations that have already taken place, but I bet it would be impossible, since you'd have to take parts of threads out but leave others. (And if it was possible, it would be way too much work to ask of you!)
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Nov 28, 2005 17:26:32 GMT -5
I didn't quite know where to put it myself... As long as we stop cluttering poor Bio, I think anywhere is fine. I chose the General Board, coz it seemed like a good place. The description does say "You can talk about anything here".
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Post by Zolah on Nov 28, 2005 17:28:54 GMT -5
I have a problem among many that is very hard for me.. I have kinda fallen in love with a guy in america....
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Post by deltaT on Nov 28, 2005 17:37:50 GMT -5
My sister fell for someone in Australia that she met by internet a couple years ago, and he came over here for a visit, but it didn't work out for various reasons. Then she met a woman (not to shock anyone) via internet that lived in the States, and she ended up moving here and they got married and are very happy now. So you can get a happy ending, but it requires someone to move.
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Post by Zolah on Nov 28, 2005 17:46:32 GMT -5
Well, the problem is.. i got a guy allready ( but i feel a bit mistreated by him sometimes..) and this american states he has only roleplaying girlfriends but i got the feeling he is lying to me, and the other girls...
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Post by Scarecrow on Nov 28, 2005 22:09:42 GMT -5
This one time a guy liked me... He lived across the street and followed me when I went outside, and spied on me. AND he lived across the street... That was a year back... It was creepy. Now this other guy likes me... And he whines aabout it on msn, and expects me to like him out of pity. He is a friend of mine, but... No. But I feel really guilty, and I'm NOT going to let him see that.
Egads, I'm beginning to sound like Grey...
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Post by deltaT on Nov 28, 2005 22:13:10 GMT -5
Why do some people think that they can somehow make someone like them romantically? It's really dumb. Stalking and whining are NOT appealing characteristics!
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Post by Scarecrow on Nov 28, 2005 22:33:38 GMT -5
Absolutely. And when I ignore the guy, when he's acting particularily stupid, he acts like I just tried to shoot him in the face.
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Post by Rehiro on Nov 28, 2005 22:54:39 GMT -5
Amelius must think that we're all disgusting . Anyway, I could probably whine and stalk.... probably get me further than I am now... but my stupid pride gets in the way .
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Post by deltaT on Nov 28, 2005 23:34:19 GMT -5
You know, it's sad, but you may be right. I went out with my future husband after 2 weeks of stalking type behavior. (I was 16 at the time) I still don't recommend it...we always had a screwed up relationship, and I was so relieved when it was over.
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Nov 28, 2005 23:59:51 GMT -5
I dunno where that places me, then. I've whined ABOUT getting a girl (which I'm sure you all know), but I've never actually whined, begged, or pleaded AT a girl. Like I said before, when Mossy broke it off with me, I just let her go without any of that "no, please, we can work it out" stuff. Coz it wouldn't have worked anyway (the one bright side to pessimism).
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Post by Scarecrow on Nov 29, 2005 0:08:09 GMT -5
Heheheh... Sorry... But I agree. ... ... ... And there definately is a bright side to pessimism. Ironic, no?
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Post by Zolah on Nov 29, 2005 5:35:36 GMT -5
Its somehow weird.. My current boyfriend sometimes beg me to kiss him and such ( its feels rather filthy for the moment.. and i dont like it )
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Post by silverwolf on Nov 29, 2005 11:55:06 GMT -5
And the conversation has gone above and beyond my current level of experience...
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Nov 29, 2005 12:04:39 GMT -5
Silverwolf: It does that ALL the time for me. Like when they start talking about things like being closer than 50 feet to someone that they might consider attractive. =3
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Post by Zolah on Nov 29, 2005 15:42:45 GMT -5
is anyone intrested in reading some stuff i made? its kinda heavy ( people say ) and if you get fed up with me please say that I rather hear it then guess myself
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Post by Zolah on Nov 29, 2005 16:18:22 GMT -5
well what i mean by stuff is that i make a journal on the ' Gaia online' comunicy. and i have written much about my problems and the biggest for the moment is choosing between two people. ive send it tomorrow since it pretty late now
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Post by Scarecrow on Nov 29, 2005 19:24:43 GMT -5
Oh! Poor Rehiro! *Hugs*^^
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Post by X Daggers on Nov 29, 2005 19:30:58 GMT -5
Yeah, I like helping people with problems! I have pretty good logic but I have no experience, so it's not exactly as if I could really help... But I can make suggestions!
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Post by deltaT on Nov 29, 2005 22:57:42 GMT -5
In response to the "no experience" posts on page 1:
Being *gasp* 40 years old, I do have some life experience. However, after I left my husband, I actually made the concious choice not to get involved again. (since I had a pattern of attracting screwed up guys) I'm happier now NOT being in a relationship.
When I was younger, I always felt like a huge loser if I wasn't going out with someone. There is a lot of pressure to "couple up". But I'm much more self confident now that I actually enjoy my own company.
Anyway, I guess my point is, just because you're not half of a couple does NOT mean there is anything wrong with you. Still, I know it doesn't make much difference to hear this from someone else (and it may be quite annoying).
And now...bring on the "stuff"!
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Post by Zolah on Nov 30, 2005 6:37:16 GMT -5
Here i go!
Isnt it kinda ironic? Ive been in love wth two poeple now, ye si know its maybe not so smart... Somehow they make each other more lovable, that one lacks the other dont. sometime i wish i was a Pisexual, wich means i have multiplerelationships. But i wouldnt feel good then either, why didnt i stay as asexual.. felt much better then, I could fantasy wildly about demonic knigths and romantic nigths where either I saved my beloved one or he saved me. I think that must be the big + with being a roleplayer, you can put mysticism around you and think about things that others would just think easily on.
I think ive got to do one thing, I must problebly admit to my boyfriend that i fell ilove with someone else too. even if that means that i kill every inch of trust he ever had on me, but i promised him first thing of all when i met him... that was i would always be honest. and honesty is the key to true love i believe.
Maybe its time to be single for a while, not thinking about another person just about yourself. Not worrying about jealusy and if people lie towards you, somehow that feels like a good solution. too split the chains, and walk freely, maybe find yet another intresting person later on in life.
Ive been punished by having a big heart, and i feel like i need to be punished. as a old citate from my younger days " You must suffer so anyone else will feel better". No one an be happy if no one suffers by it, i think its true. just look at when people falls in love, get together, meanwhile here maybe where someone else that loved same person and just looks sadly at them.
I dont want to be loved, it only hurts. Somehow everyone seems like they get in love, even heard a confession from a old friend... saying that he also where in love with me once.. what do people find in me? I cant understand, ive asked my boyfriend and my other beloved one... But somehow im not happy with the answers, sometimesi wonder if i must learn to love myself before i love someone else... yuck, feel so empty.. not even a thousands of hugs can help that... Even if I love those, I wonder... have i loved or am i just mistaking real good friend for someone I love? I only start to hate myself more cause if this.. i even feel the urge to stop eating... weird to say but thats how i feel, Its not funny to trick youreslf too eat sometimes just cause the food looses its taste or just that i feel like i need to punish myself in some way. I love my mother too much too do it again but soon it doesnt matter i think.... I felt like this once before, but then i had a friend too pull me out of it. Its weird.. i feel bit 'friend-less' its like as if i only can get friends on the net, i thougth i had real ones. real close ones too, but now.. i feel quite empty handed, whats the point... Ill never get anywhere.. i will become some sort of bag lady problebly... yush, isnt ut terrific to read about a pathetic swedish girl? That hope to much for her own good and surely one day gonna do something memorable.. like getting hit by a truck ( if im lucky..)
well, I think this is enough writings... and besides, it isnt as if i think anyone would read this after all.
And yes, This is a piece of my mind. whats flying around in my head everyday.. haunting me like a ghost, or a bad perfume that dont wash off...
Now im off, ll write kater too see if i got a boyfriend less.. if so, Im going single for a while..
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Ive just told my boyfriend, It was almost as i expected. Lots of tears and why's, but he was happy that i said it to him though. soon we made up and he forgave me, then everything was almost as before.
It doesnt feel very confortable making someone cry, especially someone you care for. but i feel much better now, Like if a heavy back pack has been removed...
// Zo ________________________________________
Well after this happening my boyfriend wanted me strictly to bann the guy from my msn, I did but i contact him on yim instead... since he wanted still to be friends. but after a while i fell down in the swamp again and we started yet again talk about how much we loved each other and so ( i feel like a slut..) - there a while i was thinking to leave my boyfriend until i saw something on his yim ' yet another relationship has ended' i tried to contact him but just when i logged in he shut the yim of. i talked to him the next day and he said it was his sisters boyfriend =_=
Ive been talking with this guy before about girls, i said that i wouldnt bother if he got a girl since i still was in a relationship. but he said that he would just be with me, but recently i starting to doubt vey much... come on, im very good at playing detective - and ive found out many 'girl friends' on gaia that he says its just rp or that it is one of the other guys ( he say that he have that account with 2 guys more ). But why does the 'rp girl friends' use his real name? this is very confusing... thats why i want some ideas, shall i somewhat ask him straigth out? reveal that ive been checking all posts he made? or shall i investigate more or just drop it and be happy with my swedish boyfriend
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Post by silverwolf on Nov 30, 2005 11:24:32 GMT -5
Sorry Zolah, i'm at school so I don't have time to read that now. I'll read it when I get home.
Anyway, on the subject of relationships, I may be kinda depressed for the next couple monthes. Being one of the 'odd' ones, I don't WANT to be in a relationship. Yet the holidays get to mebecause there are pictures of couples EVERYWHERE, and I'm simply not in one.
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Post by lysinias on Nov 30, 2005 12:44:39 GMT -5
.... I really feel for you. But ah, I can't help too much, I've never had a boyfriend or an urge to be in a relationship. But well, it's your choice in the end. I guess you should do what feels right.
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Post by Zolah on Nov 30, 2005 16:21:56 GMT -5
well, my boyfriend would react as if i would hit him with a iron bar or something if i asked something like that... i also recently talked ( well today ) about how he treats me, we talked it through and he says he will try to be better.
the problem with doing what i feel is rigth now is that i have no clue what i should do. mah! i feel like i got mashes taters in my head T_T
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nienisprings
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Post by nienisprings on Nov 30, 2005 21:38:53 GMT -5
Ah, feel free to ignore me, I've never been in a relationship in my life, but I wanna get this off my chest. Prepare to skip over a long rant.
..... I'm probably never going to date. I'm a pervert, I like looking, hugging, and writing about guys, but the thought of actually -being- with one makes me feel nervous and dizzy. I've been flirted with once in my life and I was so shocked the annoying guy ended up with my number and I ended up completely freaking out over it. I got upset and nervouse when he called and I just couldn't tell him to stop contacting me.... which made me realise just how bad it would be if I actually got a boyfriend. I can't say "no" to people.
I have no reason to fear guys apart from my suspicion of them wanting s-e-x and my ridiculous protective feelings over my first kiss. Apart from that one incident a guy has never looked at me twice. The one guy I actually cared for and pretty much loved for about three years- he got a girlfriend right before figuring out how I felt and he's buying a ring to become engaged, possibly this summer (no hard feelings because friendship comes first).
.... It's all silly. I wish I could just talk it out with a friend, but my one friend moved away to Iowa- everyone else is more "friendly acquaintance" material and they don't talk to me much apart from joking around. It gets lonely sometimes.
*shrug*.... I'm gonna go...... I dunno, distract myself. I've got myself all depressed and teary now.
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Post by Rehiro on Nov 30, 2005 22:05:25 GMT -5
Dont worry Nieni Springs. I can relate to most of that. I get very nervous around the opposite gender too. I have never even kissed or gone out with a girl in my life. And not because I have never been given an opportunity. Because I tend to sabbotage myself. Always ruining my chances. I seem to have another girl pursuing me now, and the most that I can do to express interest, is not express active disinterest. But its ridiculous the emotions that can stir when brought up to a situation like that. Jolts of electricity flow through my body, my heart beats quicker, my pulse races, I lose feeling in my arms, my breath feels cold. I feel like a cartoon. But I dont come off as such. I just seem disinterested and cold.
I can sneak around and be perverted in the privacy of my own mind all I like, but when it comes to being that close to someone in the real world, I freaze up. The emotions too strong for me to handle. Im so hopeless that I cant even look at that picture I requested on this forum... not yet anyway... I will, just not yet. Jesus Christ, I cant even handle a cartoon!
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nienisprings
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Post by nienisprings on Nov 30, 2005 22:21:16 GMT -5
Yea, but I don't just freeze up- I'm shocked when someone shows interest because.... well, no one ever really shows interest in me, so it doesn't seem natural. And while I do get jittery when I know the guy and like them back, if it's someone I don't know very well, I feel.... almost disgusted. I just don't trust guys unless they're a friend first, they scare me if they show more than friendly interest.... most likely because I have a goal of waiting till marriage for you-know-what and I know that's what all guys want.
And I also have the problem with seeming cold at some points, but in my case it's a defense mechanism. I don't want the guy to get close and I don't want them to realise I'm just some annoying weird girl.
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