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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Oct 28, 2005 20:06:11 GMT -5
I'll keep these in mind... Now then... What next? Maybe, where the pudding cup do I find gals in real life? Since I graduated, the female population has dwindled to zero. School was the only time I ever saw girls my age. And now all of them have moved away to college. Is there a better place for these comments and stuff? I keep feeling like I'm cluttering the threads with my stupid problems...
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Post by lysinias on Oct 28, 2005 20:19:38 GMT -5
hmm I dunno, I see alot in my college classes, and wandering the campus, but uh hmmm. Clubs? Malls. An orginization, like uhm a rowing team( my firend used to do that). From what I've seen of your schedule a little time can be alloted to getting out of the house. Anywhere out of the house is more likely to find someone.
hmmm, maybe a new thread could be started somewhere? Maybe one for asking questions of fellow forum members, ones we don't mind being public? Or you could just send me a PM, or IM me. If this IS bothering people.
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Oct 28, 2005 20:22:52 GMT -5
I dunno if it IS bothering people, but IMs are generally the quickest method I know for talking. Just sayin'.
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Post by Zolah on Oct 29, 2005 16:38:16 GMT -5
what are you guys talking about really?
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Post by lysinias on Oct 29, 2005 18:10:45 GMT -5
uhm how to find female friends one's own age? Maybe...
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Oct 29, 2005 20:34:20 GMT -5
And possibly more than friends... If you catch my meaning...
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Post by Zolah on Oct 30, 2005 6:14:36 GMT -5
Ah, ok. That can be very complicated, it depends so much what kind of girl youre after i guess
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Oct 30, 2005 14:11:22 GMT -5
By now I figure I'll take anyone who'll have me. Beggars can't be choosers, right? And someone in my position can't afford to be picky.
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Post by Rehiro on Oct 30, 2005 14:48:00 GMT -5
I could afford to be picky if I could get over my freaking mental issues! I've had more than my fare share of admirers but I have such a horrible tendancy to screw things up.
And yeah, there probably isnt any set rule or key to the mind of all females, but these should still help. I think I understand the basics of what I should do. Just get over my nervousness and take action despite my short comings and hope for the best.
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Oct 30, 2005 14:50:35 GMT -5
You sound like me, Rehiro. 'Cept for that bit about having mental issues. Or admirers. I've never had either of those.
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Post by Rehiro on Oct 30, 2005 23:38:41 GMT -5
I had a dream last night, where Kagome and Sango were looking at Seshoumaru and they said "he looks sexy, he looks like Rehiro".
Wow... I must be losing grip on reality.
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Oct 30, 2005 23:53:28 GMT -5
Well, dreams... I don't think they're meant to be logical. If they were, I'd have a very good reason to avoid beagles.
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Post by Zolah on Oct 31, 2005 4:54:16 GMT -5
well ,myselfi only had one boyfriend ever, and its kinda weird how people kinda.. well, gather around when youre allready busy. - it is as if people need too ave some certificate ' you can be with her, she has a boyfriend = she must be perfect' - people are weird... sorry i must have confused you alot now *sweatdrop*
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Oct 31, 2005 10:10:27 GMT -5
=3 Only a little...
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Post by silverwolf on Oct 31, 2005 22:50:07 GMT -5
Actually, I've never had a boyfriend, I just enjoy giving away secrets of the female mind.
Oh,and I've got a couple other tidbits which may come in useful, namely, if you want to go out with a girl, ask her yourself, don't have your friends do it. This has happened to me a couple times, and I turned them both down on the reasoning that if they didn't care enough to ask me themselves, I didn't care enough to date them.
Also, when asking a girl to go out with you, ask her aside, don't ask her in front of all of her friends, or even a few of her friends, this too, is personal experience, a guy asked me out while I was talking to my friend, and I had been laughing and talking and was so deep into the conversation that I just turned him down. I wasn't trying to snub him, I just wasn't really paying attention.
And hey, I don't mind the thread cluttering, if someone wants to get back on topic, let 'em jump in anytime they want.
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Nov 1, 2005 0:04:58 GMT -5
Many mahalos for the advice... And, the way I see it, your not having a boyfriend is unrelated. You can still know things. And I'll take any advice--and attention--I can get.
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Post by silverwolf on Nov 1, 2005 9:08:36 GMT -5
I'm gonna guess that 'mahalos' means something along the lines of 'thanks' and not like 'poisonous jungle snakes' or such.
I figure my not having a boyfriend means little to nothing about my advice giving abilities, I was just sharing, but thanks anyways. And so long as you post here, you're gonna get advice and attention, whether you want it or NOT.
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Nov 1, 2005 13:02:17 GMT -5
Fwah. =3 That almost sounds threatening...
And yeah. 'Mahalo' means 'thank you' in Hawaiian. Except all the tourists think it means 'trash' coz it's printed on all the public garbage cans.
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Post by silverwolf on Nov 1, 2005 18:58:33 GMT -5
Well, thank you for the trash.
Do you guys have any secrets of the male mind that we may find useful?
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Nov 1, 2005 19:07:15 GMT -5
Not that I know of... I think very differently than, like, all the other guys I went to school with.
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Post by silverwolf on Nov 1, 2005 22:38:53 GMT -5
Weeeell, if my lack of relationship experience and tomboy-ish-ness doesn't stop me, what's holding you back?
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Nov 1, 2005 22:56:19 GMT -5
Deep-rooted shyness (took me 'til I was sixteen to order my own food at resturaunts--even Burger King), rational fear of rejection (the two girls I DID ask out both said no. Actually, Kerri said no, then called up and said yes, then passed a note the next day saying she already had a boyfriend, and I could hang out with her friends at the dance. I didn't go. And I misinterpreted with Kelly, told her when I thought she felt the same, she said no, then--after not speaking for a month--she asked me to the movies, saying that her schedule was kinda random. Hasn't talked about it since.), things like that. Oh, yes, and lack of contact. Every girl I knew that I would have been mildly interested in has moved away for college. No lie. Every single one. ._. I just have bad luck... Or is it skill?
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Post by silverwolf on Nov 1, 2005 23:35:52 GMT -5
bad skill? I didn't know you could do that. Sorry about your bad track record there, Tai. You seem plenty interesting to me. But if you're that shy, I commend you for asking girls out yourself, instead of asking friends to do it for you.
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Nov 1, 2005 23:40:45 GMT -5
Bad skill = natural repellant or negation of something. The ability to ruin just by being present. And also, I didn't know anybody who'd ask them out for me... I mean, the thought never occurred to me that you could have other people ask someone out for you until you mentioned it here.
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Post by Rehiro on Nov 2, 2005 16:59:28 GMT -5
Ask me anything about the male mind, and i'll see what I can do for you.
I've only ever been aproached by females, I have never gone on the offensive and approached one myself. Not even through a friend. Opportunity has stricken so many times and I have always shot them down.
But I really dont mean to come off the way that I do. Whenever im approached, its like electricity is flowing through my body and numbing my brain. I dont think its fair that people expect you to act rationally while your being electrocuted.
In all honesty, I suppose that I am afraid of this new realm of existence that is so powerfull and I have no idea where things are going to go. I always have the instinct to escape so that I can plan things over and decide upon an action. But its always a situation that requires imediate action. I think its a sign of immaturity. Not being able to handle ones own emotions, but instead I always seem to come off as kind of high and mighty, or really incompetent and unworthy. DAMN!!!!
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Post by Zolah on Nov 2, 2005 17:59:36 GMT -5
Since poeple seems to discuss such troubles and so... does anyone know how to deal with people that falls in love with you when you allready got a boyfriend? especially web guys ...
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Post by Rehiro on Nov 2, 2005 20:28:03 GMT -5
Well with web guys you can just ignore them. With people in real life? They can be dangerous. I dont know....
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Post by Üfy the Teddy Slayer. on Nov 3, 2005 17:37:13 GMT -5
Since poeple seems to discuss such troubles and so... does anyone know how to deal with people that falls in love with you when you allready got a boyfriend? especially web guys ... Ack. That depends on what you want. If you appreciate their friendship a great deal then you have to be straightforward and state the boundaries, where the conversation can and cannot go, and explain why. But if they’re not someone you know that well or are close to and you have no qualms about blocking them if necessary, tell them they get three creepyness “strikes” before they’re blocked or something.
I guess not knowing anything about the situation, the best advice I can give is to consider the situation outside of the conversation, listen to your feelings, and make decisions. Then stick to your guns when you are talking. Don’t let yourself be manipulated by guilt, because it’d be nice if you could make everyone happy, but you can’t.
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Post by silverwolf on Nov 3, 2005 17:52:59 GMT -5
Rehiro, that's a pretty accurate description of why I've shot down the guys who've asked me out...ish. They say something and I just sorta go "huh? What am I supposed to say to that? What's he saying? Wait, what?"
Here's a question, o' mighty male minds: What if there's a guy at your school who likes you, but they don't know that you know that they like you? What do you DO?
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Nov 3, 2005 19:52:44 GMT -5
...Can you repeat that, but slower? *couldn't quite follow* Like, who does the guy like again??
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