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Post by Zolah on Jan 2, 2006 18:16:54 GMT -5
hmm, dating starts to look quite weird.. it is like trying out a coat.. then if it doesnt fit you dont wear it any more XP
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Post by Shippo_no_Neko on Jan 2, 2006 18:20:59 GMT -5
Ahh, well... I don't know if that is a coat I will ever be able to try..... *angsts*
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Jan 2, 2006 19:18:41 GMT -5
(The coats are my friends...)
I have a story to tell... Well, yesterday, mi familia and I went out to see a movie. During the course of the movie, some girl waved at me. Twice. At least, I think she did. She left the theatre before we did (Mum insists on seeing every credit they list), and I didn't get the best look at her (her five sitting rows ahead and to the left), so I wouldn't have been able to recognise her in th' lobby afterward... Also, she was with a friend, so I didn't feel it right to go and sit with her (aside from being with my family). I just watched her a lot... She walked by twice too (four times, if you count going and coming), probably on the way to the bathroom. I wish I coulda told her age, too. Feh... So I feel I jus' blew another chance... ._. I'm really lousy at this, aren't I? A friend advised me what I shoulda done (I have the conversation if anyone wants to see it), but it's too late now, yeah?
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Infrared
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Post by Infrared on Jan 2, 2006 22:15:01 GMT -5
(You can always have your coat tailored...) It it never too late, Tai! ...oh, wait, no, it is. Unless I'm suffering from a random bout of dyslexia again, you have no idea who this girl was and you didn't give her the right message, either. Sorry, man, but that girl has gone bye-bye (well, unless she decides to stalk you, but that's an entirely different problem.) Oh well, better luck next time! There are plenty of fish in the sea--you just have to hook the right one! [/stolen metaphor]
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Jan 2, 2006 22:40:09 GMT -5
Infrared, I invite you to go back to page 3 of this thread and read why this is a particularly heavy blow for me. Or I can sum it up right here: I have no luck with girls. At all. Ever.
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Post by RyokoDragonez on Jan 3, 2006 0:53:58 GMT -5
Don't worry about it Tai-kun. Just remember to keep trying ^_^. From what I have seen of you on the forums, you are a pretty nice guy and have an intellegent way of thinking. Rather than asking someone out from the start... why don't you just become friends? Try going to social events such as a book opening for a book series (or author) that you like? (Harry potter? I"ve met a ton of people at those things). Go to some anime conventions. (If you want, PM me and I can probably find out when and where there are some in your area). Anime conventions are GREAT places to meet new people ^_^.
Or maybe you could join a sport or martial art? (Something that requires more than one person, obviously). Just some ideas as to how to meet people. Another way to meet people is to get a job where you have to deal with people...or maybe a job with a lot of OTHER people?
My boyfriend actually is really shy. He too took until he was sixteen to be able to order his own food. He got around this shyness by just becoming friends with people (males and females alike).
As for a fear of rejection... The worst they can do is say, 'no' right? Think of it this way... when you go somewhere (say the mall) and there are 14 girls in the area... and you see one you like. You've just rejected the other 13. Not on purpose, that is just the way things work. Don't let rejections get to you (easier said than done, I know). Don't loose hope and just keep trying. ^_^
The best advice I can really give is to become friends with a bunch of people (Guys and girls). Get off the computer, go out and do some stuff and maybe land a date by mutual attraction between you and one of these friends. Don't loose hope and don't give up. You'll make it eventually. <3
Just some Ideas.
--- Ryoko Dragonez
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Jan 3, 2006 1:07:24 GMT -5
These are all great ideas. The only problem is that I have precisely one way of getting anywhere: walk (or wait 'til Mum can drive me). This pretty much puts a damper on anything more than 10 minutes away by car. And I live in a small town, so it puts a damper on pretty much any get-together. And I can go further in depth, if needed/anyone is curious. I do have other reasons why all this stuff is unavailable.
On an offhand note, whenever you guys call me Tai-kun, it always reminds me of FLCL, where the main guy is called Takkun by the two main females.
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Post by RyokoDragonez on Jan 3, 2006 2:19:32 GMT -5
Is there not a public transit system where you are? X.x... And I still think you should try the anime convention thingy. Even if you donl't meet a 'girlfriend'... You will still have a lot of fun ^_^
And do you mind us calling you Tai-kun? X.x... I do not want you to be uncomfortable with what I am calling you. (I was just too lazy and dyslexic to type out the entire name X.x *shame*) -- Ryoko Dragonez
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Jan 3, 2006 13:47:32 GMT -5
To answer your second question first, I dun mind what you call me, as long as it's polite. =)
As to the first question, the only bus stop I know of is at the mall, which is generally the destination I'm going to. ._o
Also, conventions scare me a bit.
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Post by xeno666 on Jan 3, 2006 16:44:38 GMT -5
They scare me too... But not as much as that green font scares me....
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Post by Shippo_no_Neko on Jan 3, 2006 19:44:32 GMT -5
I love conventions! <3<3
And at cons, you can hug ANYONE. Well, if they are cosplaying. Man, I love em!
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Post by RyokoDragonez on Jan 3, 2006 19:54:53 GMT -5
We are getting off-topic again. But just a note, Shippo-chan. At conventions now they commonly are implementing an "Ask first" rule about hugging and glomping. Quite a number of people (including myself) have been pretty badly hurt from random glomps. Others, are simply uncomfortable with physical contact. So be sure to ask first.
--- Ryoko Dragonez
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Post by Shippo_no_Neko on Jan 3, 2006 20:00:07 GMT -5
I do ask first, Ryo-sama! And I only hug the people who arent scary! But... Ehhehhehh...
I do have a bit of a social problem. I have 11 people who "stalk" me. They are really scary, and they do overly romantically scary things. I'm kinda afraid. I sometimes taijutsu them, but that only seems to encourage them! Uwahh, what should I do?!
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Post by RyokoDragonez on Jan 3, 2006 20:09:39 GMT -5
This is going to sound somewhat lame...but. Have you tried talking to them about it? Tell them it makes you uncomfortable. It might just be that they do not know what you think about what they are doing.
--- Ryoko Dragonez
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Post by Rehiro on Jan 3, 2006 21:32:05 GMT -5
You have 11 stalkers? You effectively use martial arts to subdue them? If you managed to effectively use martial arts on me, it would probably deter me from stalking you... not saying I would be stalking you in the first place... I wish I knew martial arts...
I dont have much advice, I guess you could walk through a bunch of places that they dont want to go. Or you could try really laying on the taijutsu, but I guess that should be discouraged... if they're really bothering you, you should do something about it.
Dont get involved with one of them. All the women seem to be going to the creepy stalker people. I should be a creepy stalker person... its a very effective technique. Stalking is not cool *grumbles*.
And what was with that coat analogy? Are the men the coats worn by women? Or women coats worn by me? Are we all coats that are wearing each other? If sombody tried to tailor me I would be very irritated.
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Post by Shippo_no_Neko on Jan 4, 2006 17:56:57 GMT -5
Yes, but, my eleven stalkers are not cool people, like Rehiro-kun. These are the scary people.... Ex.: Stalker: Hey! Hey! Kate! Me: O.o; Hoy... Stalker: Look! I popped this zit on my face and its BLEEDING! Can you lick off the blood! Me: No! Stalker: I'd do the same for you! Me: Umm... No thank you! Stalker: Well, look, I ripped off all of this skin! You wannit? *smile real close to my face* Me: No! Eew.... Stalker: Look, It's riiiight here! *singsongy voice* Me: ORIYAAAH! *kicks below the belt* Stalker: Oooo! She *cough* Likes it! *falls down Me: *runs away* It's not usually like me to run, but after days of this...
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Post by DarkfireTaimatsu on Jan 4, 2006 17:58:53 GMT -5
Yus... Stalkers like that... Maybe you should carry a kunai.
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Post by Shippo_no_Neko on Jan 4, 2006 18:15:22 GMT -5
At school? No thanks, I've had ISS already! .............. today >_<
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Post by Rehiro on Jan 4, 2006 18:50:14 GMT -5
This topic is making me angry. It keeps reminding me how i'll never be in a relationship... ITS MAKING ME VIOLENT!!!!
Its like i've failed at satisfying an instinct and duty that has been handed down through generations and generation so as punishment these feelings are only here to bring me torment and pain!
I have to go hit something...
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Post by tentacledbeast on Jan 4, 2006 19:19:42 GMT -5
Forgive me for not reading all those posts, I just read the first and last page... this thread is too long. Shippo_no_Neko, *11*? 11 stalkers at the same time? I only had one and I thought I had a problem. Wow. My suggestions would be, in that order: a) try to explain to them that they don't stand a chance with you. Lie if necessary (say you are already in a relationship). b) lose them if possible (what I did, eventually). c) take advantage of their stupid love. I actually entertained that thought for a while; it may sound harsh, but if you think about it, it makes sense: those idiots will do things for you whether you want them to or not. So why not have them do things that you do want? Also, that will surely make them realise how dumb they are so they will leave you alone. Never say "please" or "thank you", just something to the effect of "look, you wanna do something useful? I want *this and that*" "Oh, you've done like I said. Good. Bugger off now." Heck, THAT should turn them off! Plus, you get to have 11 servants for a while. d) if even that doesn't work, they're really crazy and maybe you should go to the police Here's my story. That guy who ended up stalking me seemed normal when I first met him. He talked very enthusiastically about the band he was in and the music he wrote. I like music... we discussed our favourite bands and the like. I tend to trust people, poor me, so when he asked for my mobile phone number I gave it to him without much thought. That was, of course, a while *before* he said he was in love with me. Ugh. I made something up and went straight home. From then on, he kept calling me and sending me messages. He said he wrote a couple of songs for me and he wanted to play them for me. I explained to him that there wasn't the slightest chance of anything happening between us (which obviously didn't get through to him, as it turned out). He said he just wanted to be friends with me and that he wanted to meet with me. Well, I didn't want to say "I don't want to be your friend", after all he was really nice to me and all, but really I *didn't* want to be friends with him, so I kept making up excuses why I couldn't see him. He kept asking my plans, and I usually told him I would be at the university, or that I had to study, or something to that effect. Then one day, a couple of months later, I was going to a formal dinner of some organisation (I won't bother you with details) and I told him when he asked me. He wanted to come too. I explained that he would have to buy an invite, and that he would have to actually be interested in the organisation, otherwise he had no business being there just for me. He still wanted to come. Keep in mind that at that point, I didn't know just *how* deluded he was. I thought, what the heck, the organisation could use the money, and it's not like I'm going out with him or anything, so I told him where and when and he came. When I found him there, he had something for me. Two sheets of paper with designs for trains. Trains, FFS. What do I know about that? He said he made them when he was 16, that they were really special to him, and that he wanted me to have them. I felt I had to take them, otherwise he would be offended I tried really, really patiently to explain the situation to him once again. It just didn't seem to get through. Then, as we were about to leave (we lived in the same neighbourhood and someone had offered to give us both a ride) he did the following: he went up to the orchestra, he said he wanted to make an announcement, took the microphone and proclaimed in front of everybody that he loved me. Aaargh! Incredible. He just didn't get it! Naturally, I was really uneasy about the whole deal. So the three of us (me, him, and the guy who was giving us a ride) are walking to the car, and he asks me, what did I think of his announcement? I made some joke. We get to the car, he sits in the front, I sit in the back. We reach his place first. He gets out, closes the door behind him, then walks to *my* door, he opens it, I think "what, I'm not getting off here", then I realise... NO FUCKING WAY... he bent toward me - I pulled back in UTTER disgust - so he ended up kissing my nose. Freaky. After that night, he kept bothering me with messages (I didn't answer his calls any more) to which I replied, as always, with excuses. He kept saying he wanted to give me something. A few months went by like this, and he wouldn't give up. I thought I'd give it one last shot; I'd meet with him, try to explain myself for the last time, and if he STILL didn't get it... no more nice tentacled beast. So one sunny afternoon we went to a cafe together. He gave me a gift I now know I shouldn't have accepted; it seemed right to me at the time, since I wanted to be polite and not hurt his feelings and all that. I explained, YET AGAIN, that his efforts were pointless. I even told him there was someone else (that was a lie). Nothing. He still hoped that in time he could make me change my mind. Well, after we parted, I stopped replying to his messages. He was all "are you mad at me?" "why are you mad at me?" "what have I done to you?" "I'm still thinking about you!" but eventually, EVENTUALLY, he stopped. Phew.
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Post by Shippo_no_Neko on Jan 4, 2006 20:01:43 GMT -5
I'm sorry! I hope I can somehow make you feel better!
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Post by tentacledbeast on Jan 4, 2006 20:15:36 GMT -5
Nah, it's over now.
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Post by Shippo_no_Neko on Jan 4, 2006 20:17:18 GMT -5
Eh? What? Tentacle... wait... what? *gets confuzzled*
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Post by Scarecrow on Jan 4, 2006 20:18:56 GMT -5
Number one way to lose someone who likes you: Act like Adria.
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Post by Shippo_no_Neko on Jan 4, 2006 20:23:56 GMT -5
Wow. Well, they would like it. It would mean that they would get attention from me. even if it is digging their obsessed little hearts out..... and I really dont wanna hurt them like Adria hurt poor Zerlocke-chan!
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Post by Scarecrow on Jan 4, 2006 20:27:01 GMT -5
Yesh... Poor Zerlocke...
Are you sure? Have you spoken to anyone else about them?
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Post by silverwolf on Jan 4, 2006 21:11:26 GMT -5
I have one part-creepy-stalker-guy. I have a bit of experience with them, though.
Anyway, sorry to everybody, hope you aren't scarred for life. Shippou, you can hide from the creepy guys in my basement where I keep all my bishies, if you like. *Smile*
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Post by Shippo_no_Neko on Jan 6, 2006 21:19:19 GMT -5
.......................................................................... .......................................................................... .......................................................................... Bishies, you say?
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Post by Zolah on Jan 7, 2006 15:18:36 GMT -5
How do you confront a friedn wich you dont see or talk to? only see him in a game? do you go and like PM him and say what you think?
It is lke this, you remember when i was very down about some things including my friends? well, one of them had snooped around on my gaian account and read everything i have written, and then sent it too my boyfriend ( my Boyfriend didnt care since we have talked about it) but still.. I dont think you should go through others posts and then sending it to another person and almost hope it shall result in a big figth?
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Post by silverwolf on Jan 7, 2006 16:56:59 GMT -5
I can't help you much. I have no experance with anything like that. but, yes Shippo. Bishies.
And, am I the only one who noticed the 'Shippos in love' post?
(Respond to Zolah first, please)
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